When most people think about divorce and the aftermath, they’re typically thinking of the court rulings such as custody, support, and more. However, the main priority should be the impact that a divorce can have on a child.
Parents in a divorce may not receive the results they’re looking for when it comes to custody, but it is important to understand the benefits of maintaining a strong bond with your child following the dissolution. Here are some tips on how to keep the bond strong between you and your child.
Be Involved As Much As Possible
When your child is in sports or has extracurricular activities, make sure you are there and supporting them. No matter what the event is, attending will show your child that you truly care about them and what they are interested in. It will also give you discussion points when you’re together and sharing interests.
Avoid Discussing the Other Parent
One way to harm the bond between you and your child is to negatively discuss the other parent. This can cause negative thoughts in one direction or the other, which can cause arguing or push back. When you are spending time with your child, the focus should be on your relationship and own bond, similar interests, and what you two do together.
Be Consistent
If you tell your child you’re going to do something, make sure you follow through on your promise. After a divorce, it’s easy for children to feel resentment or disappointment to one or both parents. Any act of inconsistency or breaking promises can cause those feelings to build.
Schedule Calls or Visits
Make sure you’re speaking with your child as much as possible and always keep the conversations on your own relationship with them. Don’t discuss what the other parent is doing or not doing. Ask about your child’s day. Tell them you love them. See how they’ve been doing in school. Showing interest in your child’s day-to-day activities can go a long way.
If you’re going through a divorce, our Rancho Cucamonga divorce lawyers are here to help. Chung & Ignacio, LLP recognizes the importance of getting through a divorce without impacting the children. We want to guide you through the difficult matters so you can focus on what truly matters.
Call our firm today and let us help you.
