How Might Divorce Affect My Children?
It is no secret that children are impressionable. Because children often
associate their parents’ union with stability, the news of a
divorce has the ability to make them feel insecure and vulnerable. This doesn’t
have to be the case. When parents are committed to walking with their
children through this process, and taking the time to explain how it will
affect them, children are less likely to act out or become withdrawn.
All children are different, but some common emotional side effects divorce
can have on children include:
- Poor performance at school
- Disinterest in things that they used to enjoy
- Becoming withdrawn toward friends and family
- Feeling like the divorce is somehow their fault
- Feelings of insecurity and instability
Many professionals recommend that parents get together to tell their children
about the decision to divorce. In a calm, loving way, parents are encouraged
to explain how this will affect the children, stressing that this is in
no way their fault.
Depending on the relationship you have with your spouse, child custody
and visitation may become an issue. You may be able to settle on a favorable
compromise outside of court through mediation or collaborative law. Alternatively,
you will have to go to court to have a judge decide the fate of your children.
For couples with children, it may be favorable to avoid court and come
to a child custody or visitation decision through mediation or another
At Chung & Ignacio, we are prepare to provide legal counsel to couples
seeking a divorce who also have children. These are sensitive cases, and
we are committed to handling them with the utmost care and attention.